Wednesday, 29 July 2015

He is here!

We had our baby by C-section on July 17th at 11:40pm.  He is a big boy, weighing 10 lb 8oz!  I found out at an u/s on July 15th that he was going to be about that size, and it was really upsetting since the OB said it would be likely that he would have a birth injury such as shoulders getting stuck/ going into distress, etc with a natural delivery.  Also, early labour had started a few times but never progressed enough to go to the hospital.  It seems the baby was too large to descend and put pressure on the cervix, to trigger the continuation of labour.  Anyway, we are glad he is here safely...  I have some mixed feelings about the fact that he has facial features that to me are clearly the donors.  Plus he has dark hair and Joseph is lighter, so people keep commenting on that, which annoys me.  And even his name, my husband pushed for one name and I wanted another, so we used the one he liked (Thomas) as the first name, and the one I liked (Samuel) as the middle name.  Now I wish we had talked about it more and switched the order of the names.  After so long in coming, you would think there would be enough time to figure out a name, but we felt so rushed.  So here is baby Thomas.  More about the birth and the first few weeks later!















13 comments:

  1. Congratulations! I've been stalking for an update and happy to see you have a healthy baby boy. I am getting ready for my 6th FET.(3rd with donor egg/PGS). Your story gives me hope!

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    1. Good luck with your transfer! I'm glad that my story is helping someone else. Keep me posted on how it goes for you! Wishing you every success for building your family.

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  2. Your baby was born close to my birthday. Mine is July 20th ;)

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    1. Happy belated birthday to you!
      I forgot to mention that he was born on our actual wedding anniversary, too!

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  3. What a big boy! He's beautiful! Huge congrats! We didn't pick my first choice name for my son- but now it's him and I wouldn't have the other name for him even if I could. You look amazing in these pictures! I hope you're feeling well.

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    1. I hope the name grows on me, too. Right now I keep calling him Joseph! I know in the beginning I was not sure about Joseph's name, too. I have terrible indecision about names. I know it's supposed to be the fun part, but I like to overthink everything and worry about everything so it's not fun at all.
      I am feeling better day by day. Hope your cycle goes well. I am praying that your embryo is a rock star.

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  4. Congratulations on your baby boy, he's beautiful! He was a big boy, I can't imagine not having a c section. You look great!

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    1. Thanks so much! The C-section was unexpected but it has worked out fine in the end.

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  5. Congrats!! He is beautiful!! And the two boys together, melt my heart. So precious!

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    1. Thank you so much. They are both miracles and I'm amazed that they are here.

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  6. Hi! I'm a first-time visitor on your blog! First, congratulation for a safe delivery! If you don't mind me asking, but my sister is considering to get an egg donor. Do you have any tips to prepare her for this big step? Also some tips for me, since I don't really know how I can show my support. Thank you!

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    1. I'm glad that my blog could be of help to someone! I think it is wonderful that you are supporting your sister through this step. It is difficult to go it alone, so that is amazing that you are researching ways to help her. I wish you were my sister! I can say that a great source of support for me was to join a private forum called Parents Via Egg Donation (PVED). The ladies on there are amazing and it is great to be able to discuss concerns/ questions with others who are going through the same thing, especially since in real life this is rarely discussed and people are so private about it that you may not even know who has built their family this way, though they are all around us. I would suggest she join the forum at pved.org As for what you can do, I think you are already doing it! Just being a good listener is the best thing, I believe. I found this journey to be an emotional roller coaster and a longer one than expected, so just having someone there with you is great. I also found it lonely at times, and that's why I write here. I really wish that egg donation (and infertility/ baby loss/ termination for medical reasons) were more widely accepted/ acknowledged in society, that would really make things easier. I hope this changes in a positive way in the future, with greater acceptance. It is just not right how secretive it is, but I have found egg donation to be an amazing miracle that should be celebrated more widely than it currently is. Yes, there is loss-- loss of your own genetics, loss of control in the process.... but it does make you rethink what is really important, how much do you really want a child, and what does "family" really mean? Can you love a child that is not genetically your own? Why or why not? The answer for me was yes, I can. The child is mine because I wanted him and I love him, not because of his DNA. At the end of the day, I am so glad to have him here. I'm glad this option was possible and my only reservation is more attached to what others think about it, which I try to let go of caring about.
      I really hope it works out well for your sister, whatever she ends up doing! Good luck! And thanks for visiting my blog!

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