We went in to the clinic today of all days. It was a bit scary considering if there was any bad news, we would then have to contend with the rest of the Christmas family events planned for the day (and we have not told our family about the pregnancy). But the baby was fine at the u/s, and DH even came in this time, along with Joseph (I'm not sure what he thought of that) to watch. After seeing the flickering heart I felt relief. At this early stage, you just don't know what is going on in there! And even better news, the resting and not lifting has had the desired effect, and the SCH has shrunk to under 3 x 3cm. Until this point it has been growing each week, so I'm glad that there has been a change in the direction of that development. Next week is the NT scan. I asked about the NIPT (non-invasive prenatal testing) and she said that the labs are closed now for the holidays until next week, and then we are doing the NT scan anyway so she said not to do it. If the NT is abnormal we will proceed from there with further testing, but I hope that that will be ok. If the NT is fine then the regular quad screening bloodwork will take a few weeks after that... (that will just give the odds, not the diagnosis of problems like the NIPT). She said the NIPT costs $835 out of pocket, and is covered for those over age 40 but not for donor eggs because the age of the donor is considered. It "should not be needed" because the odds are low of a problem, but I just don't know how I will feel during the pregnancy if I get an ambiguous result in the screening. Is $800 that much to worry about after the $1000s I have already spent? Will I go crazy waiting until the baby is born to know for sure that it is normal, or will I go through the worry of more invasive testing (CVS or amnio) if there is a troubling screening result? I don't know up until what point the NIPT can be done, but maybe I will bring it up again next week to see what my options are. I just don't know when I will feel like I can relax, especially if I pass on the NIPT like the RE suggests I should, but maybe not until after the 20 week scan I think.
We are still not ready to tell people yet. Maybe in a few more weeks, when the results of the NT and screening bloodwork are in. I really can't wait to be further along, and hopefully more at ease.
I hope you all are having a Merry Christmas today! After our morning at the clinic we spent the day watching Joseph play with his new presents, and visiting with family. And food, lots and lots of food! We are so thankful that our hearts were not shattered this morning at the u/s. I know some people are not so lucky, and loss and devastation can happen on any day of the year. I know how hard Christmas and other holidays are for many families. We have been through many sad years before Joseph, and feel so lucky to be his happy parents this year, and hopefully a healthy sibling on the way too.
Hugs and best wishes to all of you at this time of year!